A man who has friends must himself be friendly:
Proverbs 18:24
This is a basic but often ignored principle. If you want friends, you should be friendly to others.
I heard the chilling testimony of one of the pioneers of the growth Charismatic churches in Ghana. He intimated that by the time their children left home his wife and himself realised they never had and never developed or built friendship as a couple. By instinct they lived in seperate rooms although they were living in their matrimonial home. They were separated even under one roof.
Let us build friendship with our spouses before we proceed on retirement. The fact of life is although it is good to have friendship with persons other your spouse and children it is of utmost importance to prioritise friendship with your spouse and children over and above those with others. As we grow, our friendship with others reduces to the barest minimum. Some are even fortunate to have one trusted friend like David and Jonathan. We are fortunate to have smart phones and social media in our dispensation. As aging may make it difficult to visit your friend(s) living far or even not too far away. The most reliable friendship a man can build and nature is with his wife and then his children.
Wise up and work at spending time conversing with her. Implement no phone policy at set times when you and her will chat and then with your children for about 6 hours. At least 3 times a week before retirement. Be careful what you talk about as most couples turn to gossip when they chat. Talk about yourselves ,children, the future, eternity and share your concerns. Do not talk about others.
Ritchie's Virtual Church
