YOU NEED WISDOM TO GET MARRIED

5 Get wisdom, get understanding: forget it not; neither decline from the words of my mouth.

6 Forsake her not, and she shall preserve thee: love her, and she shall keep thee.

7 Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.

Wisdom is really the principal thing in every human endeavour. Wisdom is not dispensed through formal education. Formal education gives you knowledge in the field of study. You remain blant and ignorant in several fields of study. You need wisdom to apply the knowledge you gained through formal education. Wisdom is experiential knowledge acquired or imparted to you through reading or listening to the infallible word of God.

We have the wisdom of man postulated by men and women who have distinguished themselves in their fields of specialisation. But what does bible say about this kind of wisdom in 1 Corinthians 1:22-25? It says;

"I'll turn conventional wisdom on its head,

I'll expose so-called experts as crackpots.

So where can you find someone truly wise, truly educated, truly intelligent in this day and age? Hasn't God exposed it all as pretentious nonsense? Since the world in all its fancy wisdom never had a clue when it came to knowing God, God in his wisdom took delight in using what the world considered dumb—preaching, of all things!—to bring those who trust him into the way of salvation"

Bible says the "foolishness" of God, as it were, is wiser than the wisest man ever.

There are many a young single, good looking, educated, intelligent, hardworking, smartly dressed, affable men and women who have not been able to get married. There are equally countless number of such persons who are married but has failed to remain married. Marriage is not taught in formal education at any institution whether at basic, secondary or tertiary level. The family through informal education has the sole prerogative to guide its members but has failed woefully. Being born again and knowing and reciting a few scripture here and there is not enough to get married and remain married. You need wisdom to get married and to remain married.

Bible says in 1 Corinthians 7:4 that,

" The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out."

Some men and women have taken the issue of socially constructed roles for men and women too far to the extent that, to them it is a fight for ones right as a man or a woman. Please, note that, there is no universally socially constructed roles either for a man or a women. These roles are culture specific or limited to class and society. Do not swallow hook, line and sinker what you read, hear or watch from cultures, societies or social classes different from yours.

You need wisdom to get married and to remain married. It is about consensus building through dialogue. Study the infallible word of God to know God's wisdom concerning marriage. Read books on marriage written premised on the word of God. Talk to persons with exemplary marriage life premised on the word of God.

Do not be deceived, you may have a make-shift relationship with some semblance to marriage as instituted by God. That's the wisdom of man which is inferior to the wisdom of God. Don't wait until the storm comes before you seek God. Seek God whilst He may be found. Make hay whilst the sun shine.

Bro Ritchie Edukwesi WOANYA

A man with a purpose on a mission to influence my world with the Kingdom Culture.