SPOUSAL FRIENDS

There is a friend who STICKS CLOSER THAN A BROTHER' 

Proverbs 18:24

Did you marry your childhood friend, your friend at the tertiary level of education, your friend at church et cetera. Probably you married an absolute stranger or an enemy? 

Sleeping with the enemy! How would or does that feel? What about a stark stranger whom your parents, friends, colleagues at work or sibling introduced? My wife was introduced to me by my mum. I remember the first time we spoke: I called her on phone (landline not smart phone). Her mum picked the call and called her to talk to a man she only heard of from her mother-in-law to be. We chatted for hours for the first time amidst laughter. She could not believe meeting her husband through her mother-in-law. But it did happen. The long hours of chat on phone was an indicative of the ability to strike friendship with my wife and it did work. I sing and dance in front of her and she keeps laughing. I thought she could not do same but she deed it. She is my FRIEND.

Is your wife or husband a SPOUSAL FRIEND? The concept of SPOUSAL FRIENDS is missing in many a marriage. The hitherto lover birds as it were end up getting divorced. Work it out and work at it please! Don't let go of him or her. 

A TRUE FRIEND they say will always be your defence lawyer before he or she becomes your judge. You must have that 'BLIND LOYALTY' as it were before your family, parents, siblings, friends, colleagues at work, your Pastor, children et cetera for him or her. Be his or her defence lawyer before the public and then when the two of you are ALONE IN YOUR CLOSET, give him or her a kiss and then pass your judgement on his or her conduct or utterances in public. Do not incite your family and especially your children against your spouse by recounting minor altercations you had with him or her in the past. If you are divorced keep whatever differences that caused the separation to yourselves. DO NOT GET YOUR CHILDREN involved. Leave the rest of  your family and friends to make informed decision on the break up. Remember, 'In doing this, you will heap coals of fire on his (generic) head, AND THE LORD WILL REWARD YOU. Proverbs 25:22. But if the enemy (your ex) hunger, feed him (generic), if he ((generic) thirst, give him (generic) water to drink: for...' Romans 12:20. Go out of your way and reach out to him or her. 

Do not go for the idiomatic or literally meaning of 'heap coals of fire on one's head', which is to make a special effort to induce feelings of guilt or remorse in another person. Let the WORD OF GOD be your standard: Your WORD is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path. NIV Psalm119:105. Vengeance is mine saith The Lord. Romans 12:19.

LET LOYALTY BE YOUR GREATEST IN YOUR MARRIAGE. To LOVE and to KEEP till... 

There is NO marriage after death. Some couples have the fantasy of meeting each other in heaven or hell (it's real if you have not accepted Christ Jesus. Read Romans 10:10). Please, 'At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angles in heaven. NLT Mathew 22:30. There will be nothing like God giving you six (6) wives as taught by some. SO, IF YOU HAVE ANY LOVE, LOYALTY, HONESTY, COMMITMENT, et cetera please exhibit them whilst he or she is ALIVE. No amount of weeping or wearing mourning cloth or 'sack cloth' can make up for denying her or him all that.

Bro Ritchie Edukwesi WOANYA